Tony Fahkry

未來(lái)的特點(diǎn)之一就是不確定性，但我們需要把握住一些不變的道理，使用正確的方法，做一些能夠讓自己不斷進(jìn)步的事情。

“If you want to know your past， look into your present conditions. If youwant to know your future， look into your present actions，” states the Chineseproverb. Life is filled with uncertainty. We rarely have a 1）precise picture ofwhat lies ahead， so we take what arises with determined courage.

It’s natural to believe you are in control of your life， yet uncertainty isrequired because the seeds of opportunity lie in the unexpected.

At a deeper level， we may fear uncertainty because of a lack of lifeskills to 2）navigate through it. Known as a negativity bias， it is a mentalpredisposition to notice and ruminate on negative information while neglectingthe positive.

Author David Rock writes inYour Brain at Work， “The braincraves certainty. A sense ofuncertainty about the future andfeeling out of control both generatestrong limbic system responses.”As a result， your mind looks to yourexternal environment to reinforce asense of balance.

Bruce Hood affirms this in The Self Illusion， “In situations whereoutcomes are important， we get stressed by uncertainty and feel the need todo something so that we can have the illusion that we can control events.”

So， how can you embrace the unexpected without being overcome bythe accompanying emotions？

To embrace uncertainty requires a change in perspective. You must yieldto the intrinsic forces of life， not oppose them. However uncomfortable， youlean in to your fears and insecurities but do not run away from them.

Fear is a confronting emotion， yet you gain self-assurance when youembrace it as a useful emotion. You can turn down the volume on fear bybeing exposed to it a little each time.

Uncertainty is an inner knowing that everything will turn out exactly as itshould. It strengthens your commitment to abide with the natural order of life.

You must be comfortable with uncertainty because it exists in our lives.Don’t retreat from it but expose yourself to it a little each time.

It was the Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius who once declared， “If youare distressed by anything external， the pain is not due to the thing itselfbut to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at anymoment.”

Try finding the balance between uncertainty and maintaining controlwithout manipulating outcomes. Let go of any tension， anxiety and fear byembracing the unknown.

Uncertainty helps you to re-evaluate the past and make new choices inlight of what transpires. It presents opportunities to create a compelling futurebased on new information.

1） precise adj. 準(zhǔn)確的

2） navigate v. 導(dǎo)航

中國(guó)有句老話說(shuō)：“如果你想知道你的過(guò)去，看看你現(xiàn)在的處境就知道了。

如果你想知道你的未來(lái)，看看你現(xiàn)在的行動(dòng)就知道了?！鄙畛錆M了不確定性，我們無(wú)法準(zhǔn)確了解未來(lái)會(huì)發(fā)生什么，所以我們只能勇敢地面對(duì)任何發(fā)生的事情。

認(rèn)為自己可以掌控自己的生活是很自然的事，但不確定性也是必不可少的，因?yàn)闄C(jī)遇的種子總是蘊(yùn)藏在意外之中。

在內(nèi)心深處，我們害怕不確定性，因?yàn)槲覀儧](méi)有把握能夠駕馭它。這被稱為消極偏見(jiàn)，是一種心理傾向，即注意和深思消極消息，而忽略積極信息。

作家大衛(wèi)·洛克在《效率腦科學(xué)》一書中寫道：“大腦渴望確定性。對(duì)未來(lái)的不確定性和失控感都會(huì)導(dǎo)致強(qiáng)烈的邊緣系統(tǒng)反應(yīng)。因此，你的大腦會(huì)從外部環(huán)境來(lái)加強(qiáng)已知的平衡感?！?/p>

布魯斯·胡德在他的《自我的本質(zhì)》一書中肯定了這一點(diǎn)：“在結(jié)果很重要的情況下，我們會(huì)因不確定性而感到壓力，并覺(jué)得有必要做點(diǎn)什么，這樣我們才能產(chǎn)生我們可以控制事件的錯(cuò)覺(jué)?！?/p>

那么，你如何才能在不被隨之而來(lái)的情緒所影響的情況下?lián)肀б庀氩坏降氖虑槟兀?/p>

擁抱不確定性需要改變觀點(diǎn)。你必須屈服于生命的內(nèi)在力量，而不是反對(duì)它們。無(wú)論多么不舒服，你都應(yīng)該屈服于你的恐懼和不安全感，但不要逃避它們。

恐懼是一種對(duì)抗情緒，但當(dāng)你把它當(dāng)作一種有用的情緒來(lái)接受時(shí)，你會(huì)獲得自信。你可以通過(guò)每次接觸一點(diǎn)兒來(lái)降低恐懼。

不確定性是一種內(nèi)在的認(rèn)知，即一切都會(huì)完全按照應(yīng)有的方式發(fā)展。它加強(qiáng)了你遵守生活自然秩序的承諾。

你必須悅納不確定性，因?yàn)樗嬖谟谖覀兊纳钪?。不要退縮，但每次都要讓自己接觸一點(diǎn)。

羅馬皇帝馬可·奧勒留曾經(jīng)宣稱：“如果你對(duì)任何外在的事情感到痛苦，痛苦不是由于事物本身，而是由于你自己對(duì)它的估計(jì)； 而這一點(diǎn)你有權(quán)隨時(shí)撤銷?！?/p>

嘗試在不操縱結(jié)果的情況下在不確定性和保持控制之間找到平衡。通過(guò)擁抱未知來(lái)放下任何緊張、焦慮和恐懼。

不確定性可以幫助你重新評(píng)估過(guò)去，并根據(jù)發(fā)生的事情做出新的選擇。它提供了基于新信息創(chuàng)造令人信服的未來(lái)的機(jī)會(huì)。