有人說:“The only two things you can count on in life are death and taxes.”不過我覺得有很多人在忙著填稅單和參加葬禮的同時(shí),會(huì)不服這一說法。我們時(shí)不時(shí)都得應(yīng)對(duì)逆境,逆境的發(fā)生有時(shí)是出于我們判斷力不足,有時(shí)則是由于其他因素。盡管我們不能控制困難何時(shí)降臨,卻完全可以控制困難對(duì)我們的影響。困難總是層出不窮的,而衡量一個(gè)人品格的真正方法莫過于看他如何應(yīng)對(duì)各種逆境與艱難。生亦有,死亦有,變遷亦常有。人生路上多坎坷,走出逆境需錦囊,六大妙招,助力奮斗。
1.Nobodys Perfect
沒有人是完美的
Perfection is a myth, and anyone who claims to always get it nght has no grasp on life at all. We cannot register every fault, poor decision or folly as an end all because its not-its but a hiccup.
We must look at life as one, great big leaming curve that never ends. Only when we are dead will we stop leaming and stop failing. So, until we are buried six feet under the dirt, we must understand that valleys are as much a part of reaching the mountain top as the ascent is.
Once we come to gnps with the reality that the lows are temporary, we will be able to shift our mindsets to rising above rather than dwelling below.
完美并不存在。任何自稱了解完美之人其實(shí)絲毫未抓住生命的真諦。我們不能把每一個(gè)錯(cuò)誤、失策、愚行都當(dāng)成世界終結(jié),因?yàn)樗鼈兏静皇墙K結(jié),它們不過是些小問題。
我們必須把生命看成一條巨大的學(xué)習(xí)曲線,永無止境。唯有在死亡之時(shí),我們才會(huì)停止學(xué)習(xí),也就沒有失敗了。因此,在身埋黃土之前,我們必須明白,深谷亦是攀登高山之巔過程中的一部分。
一旦我們懂得低谷乃是暫時(shí)的,我們就能調(diào)整心態(tài),斗志昂揚(yáng)起來而非一蹶不振。
2.Down But Not Out
可以失敗,但絕不放棄
Do not accept defeat. No matter what has happened, the worst option you have is to throw in the towel. We have one life, meaning one chance to chase the dreams we are given.
So, we have to assess whether or not the problem in front of us is big enough to blow that one chance away. Its okay to be down; we all fall. Just make sure you get up even stronger.
絕不接受失??!不管發(fā)生何事,最糟糕的選擇莫過于放棄。生命只有一次,這意味著我們只有一次機(jī)會(huì)追逐上天賜予的夢(mèng)想。
因此,我們得去評(píng)估,面前的問題是否大到能奪走我們這僅有的追夢(mèng)機(jī)會(huì)。失敗沒關(guān)系;我們都會(huì)跌倒。但要保證得從跌倒處站起一個(gè)更強(qiáng)大的你。
3. Turn Frustration into Motivation
化失意為動(dòng)力
When it rains it pours, if we letit. Just because things are not how we intended for them to be doesnt mean they must continue that way.
The difficulties and hardships bring undoubtedly dark clouds that hover over ourlives, affecting our moods and outlooks Onlife. This is why its imperative that we use frustration to motivate us to overcome.
Take whats not going in your favor and use it as a spark plug to fuel your drive forward. Often, we deserve better than what we have and proving this to ourselves can be just the motivation we need.
倘若放任自我,則將禍不單行。事情未按照我們的心意發(fā)展,并不意味著它會(huì)一直不順吾意。
艱難困苦無疑如烏云遮蔽生活,破壞我們的心情,影響我們對(duì)生活的展望。這就是為何我們得化失意為克服困難的動(dòng)力的原因。
將所有不順心之事當(dāng)作火花塞,推動(dòng)自己繼續(xù)前行。通常,我們值得擁有更好的,而向自己證明這一點(diǎn)恰是我們所需的動(dòng)力源泉。
4.Good Vibes Only
創(chuàng)造積極氛圍
NegaOvity is a cancer. It is a boa constrictor that sucks all the life from you and everyone around. Keep positivity around you, at all costs. This not only restores a healthy mind, but it also helps to attract positMty.
Small things, such as giving a stranger a friendly smile, paying for the persons coffee behind you and letting a car through incoming traffic, can give you unexpected joy-even in the most troubling times. Deciding to be more positive will be evident in what you do and how you feel.
Thats why, in order to be successful in times of struggle, good energy has to be mandatory for who you are around, as well as what you say and do. If you are around people who complain and focus on whats bad, it wont help you shift out of that mind frame at all.
消極是癌癥,如巨蟒吞噬你,乃至你周遭所有人的活力。無論如何都要在你周圍創(chuàng)造一種積極氛圍。這不僅可以恢復(fù)健康向上的思想,更可以構(gòu)成良性循環(huán)。
給他人一個(gè)微笑,為排在身后的人付一杯咖啡錢,車流中讓他人先行,諸如此類的小事會(huì)帶給你意想不到的快樂,哪怕是在你最艱難的時(shí)候。決定變得更加積極后,你的所做所感都會(huì)迎來顯而易見的變化。
這就是為什么,要想在困難期間獲得成功,必須與有正能量之人相處,你的一言一行也必須帶著正能量。如果你身側(cè)之人熱衷抱怨,只關(guān)注事物糟糕的一面,這根本無法幫助你調(diào)整心態(tài)。
5.Change
勇于改變
Albert Einstein famously stated, “l(fā)nsanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different resuIts.” The Nobel Prize-winning college dropout was right: We must change our approach to every dead end.
The struggles we face may be an indication that we should change our surroundings, friend groups and even mindset in order to ensure that such mishaps do not occur again.
Change is scary. Its hard work and requires effort. But, if we want to succeed In areas of our lives at which weve previously failed, we must take a step back to observe and make adjustments; anything else would be insane.
愛因斯坦有句名言:“愚蠢就是一遍遍地做同一件事,卻期待不同成果。”這位大學(xué)輟學(xué)的諾貝爾獎(jiǎng)得主所言不假:每遇一條死胡同,我們就必須轉(zhuǎn)換路線。
我們所面對(duì)的困境或許是一種暗示,暗示我們應(yīng)當(dāng)調(diào)整當(dāng)下環(huán)境、朋友圈乃至心態(tài),以防類似事件再次發(fā)生。
改變常使人不安,改變需要努力。但是,倘若我們想要在先前翻船的陰溝里再次揚(yáng)帆,我們必須反省之前所為,做出相應(yīng)調(diào)整。此外的其他一切行為都是極其愚蠢的。
6.Plan! Plan ! Plan!
計(jì)劃!計(jì)劃!計(jì)劃!
Once youve made up your mind to change your circum-stances, the first step is to plan accordingly.
Set goals and benchmarks Of where you would like tosee yourself: the habits you think you need to drop, peopleyou feel you need to cut off and places you would like to your-self. Be realistic and manage your expectations.
Without a vision, you are blind. So, write down all the things that are making your current state unsaos factory, andthen make the necessary adjustments to get there.
一旦下定決心改變當(dāng)下處境,你所踏出的第一步就是制定相應(yīng)計(jì)劃。
設(shè)立心中理想的目標(biāo)和標(biāo)準(zhǔn):你覺得自己需要摒棄哪些習(xí)慣;你覺得自己需要遠(yuǎn)離哪些人;你想到達(dá)的地方在哪?,F(xiàn)實(shí)一點(diǎn),管理好自己的期望。
沒有高瞻遠(yuǎn)矚,你只會(huì)盲目而行。所以,把所有造成對(duì)現(xiàn)狀不滿的因素寫下來,然后做出相應(yīng)調(diào)整,向著目標(biāo)前進(jìn)。