在學(xué)習(xí)第二門語(yǔ)言的時(shí)候,我們總會(huì)遇到各種不同的問題。作為初學(xué)者,即使說(shuō)錯(cuò)了話,用錯(cuò)了詞,口出穢言,人們也只是一笑而過,而不會(huì)認(rèn)為是冒犯。可令人匪夷所思的是,隨著學(xué)習(xí)的逐漸深入,有了一定的語(yǔ)言基礎(chǔ),你就越容易冒犯某人,因?yàn)樗麄儠?huì)認(rèn)為你是在有意這樣說(shuō)。那么,要注意了!

Remember Your Manners

注意禮節(jié)

如果你忘了該怎么說(shuō)會(huì)委婉些,那就不要開口。如果你已經(jīng)說(shuō)出口,那就解釋一下,他們會(huì)理解你不是有心的。

下面,我們來(lái)看看那些粗魯?shù)恼f(shuō)法以及婉轉(zhuǎn)的表達(dá)方法,以后就要注意自己的用詞了。

1. It's none of your business.

不關(guān)你的事。

當(dāng)你拒絕朋友或同事的詢問時(shí),最好不要用上面的說(shuō)法。因?yàn)橛袝r(shí)他人是出于熱情或禮節(jié),太過直白的拒絕會(huì)曲折了他們的好意。你可以說(shuō)Sorry, it's not relevant to you. 或者Sorry, It's private. I can't talk about it. 都能避免雙方不必要的尷尬。

2. I'm done with you.

就到這里吧。

在與人共事時(shí),如果工作告一段落,千萬(wàn)不要高興得忘乎所以,隨便開口說(shuō)I'm done with you。雖然done with也是結(jié)束的意思,但是指人與人關(guān)系的了斷。所以I'm done with you.就是說(shuō)“我和你斷交了。”

OK, we're finished here. 或者You can go, thanks.都是不錯(cuò)的工作結(jié)束語(yǔ)。

3. Shut up.

別說(shuō)了。

如果你需要獨(dú)處安靜的環(huán)境,可不要輕易地說(shuō)shut up,這樣會(huì)顯得你很粗魯。在很多情況下,人們會(huì)用quiet代替shut up,表達(dá)自己想要他人閉嘴的請(qǐng)求。有時(shí)說(shuō)Can you be a little quieter? 抑或是OK, that's enough.更能有效地使周圍安靜下來(lái),而不像shut up那樣引起矛盾、沖突。

4. You need to leave now.

你該走了。

如果朋友來(lái)訪,不巧你又很忙,在短暫寒暄后,你是不是很想脫口而出You need to leave now?這時(shí)你可以說(shuō)It was nice meeting you. Take care.要么就說(shuō)I'm very sorry. I've no time free at the moment. Goodbye. 你的朋友都會(huì)理解你的。

When It's Too Late

亡羊補(bǔ)牢

有時(shí),我們只有在木已成舟的時(shí)候才意識(shí)到自己的魯莽。那么有沒有補(bǔ)救的辦法呢?你可以試著用下面的句子解釋自己的有口無(wú)心。

1. I'm sorry, that didn't come out the way I meant it.

2. Please excuse my English; I still have a lot to learn. I didn't mean to be rude.

3. Oops, that's not the right way to say that, is it? I apologise. Damn my English!

4. I'm so embarrassed! That's not the correct way to say what I wanted to say.

5. It's rude to say that? I'm very sorry. I didn't realize. English isn't my native tongue. Please accept my apologies.

Softening a Sentence

如何說(shuō)得婉轉(zhuǎn)?

在表達(dá)辣評(píng)的時(shí)候,不要把話說(shuō)得太無(wú)情,下面的修辭可以使你的口氣不那么生硬。

1. I hope you can understand, but …

... I hope you can understand.

【例句】Ben, it's none of your business. I hope you can understand.

2. I don't mean to be rude, but …

【例句】I don't mean to be rude, but that was a little dumb.

3. Please don't take offense, but …

【例句】Please don't take offense, but you need to leave now.

但如果人們認(rèn)定你就是毒舌的時(shí)候,怎樣的粉飾都不可能掩蓋你的魯莽。

Ps:Be Polite

有禮有節(jié)

表現(xiàn)禮貌并不代表示弱。如果某人正在氣頭上,對(duì)你口出狂言,那么你也要保持冷靜,理性地就事論事,控制局面,禮貌回敬。