王秀云

We're all victims of occasional bouts ofself- doubt， even the most successful， charis-matic， confident among us have their momentsof insecurity. Self-confidence can be a very deli-cate and complex thing. A few are born with it;others learn it early on and the rest of us haveto learn to build it on our own.

Our confidence plays an important role inability to achieve success and happiness. It af-fects our mental thought patterns， the way wespeak， the way we act， and the decisions wemake in all areas of our lives - career， money，relationships， and even our health. Confidentpeople take more action， perform better. andare more likely to attain their goals. In addition，confident people also know how to take moreenjoyment from their accomplishments are hap-pier in general.

Lucky for us， confidence can be built andstrengthened until it becomes natural， .just asany other habit. It simply takes a little time，some effort， and a bit of attention.

1. Fail More Often

The more challenges you take on， the more failures you ' 11 have， but learning that youcan recover， get up and push forward， buildconfidence.

2. Track your accomplishments

Keep a list of successes， big and small. It' 11help you to see your abilities in a more positive（and realistic） light.

3. Don't compare

Stop measuring yourself against others.What you see isn' t always real. Making com-parisons is a damaging and an inaccurate mea-sure of success anyway.

4. Dress for confidence

How we dress affects both how we feelabout ourselves and the way others perceive us.Expensive clothes aren ' t necessary. Put empha-sis on good fit， good condition， and appropriate-ness. Don' t be afraid of some color; black isprofessional， but color gets noticed.

5. Work on your posture

People with lower confidence often tendto have poor posture. Stand up， sit up， and keepyour head up. It ' s an instant confidence booster.

6. Learn

The more knowledge you acquire， themore confident you will be. Knowledge is pow-er， and the more powerful you feel， the higheryour confidence will be.

7. Fitness

Better physical condition and appearancegives you more body confidence， and as abonus， the extra endorphins give you an addedenergy boost.

8. Start a conversation

When you find yourself in a social situa-tion， instead of gravitating to those people you'recomfortable with， start a conversation with someone you don ' t know very well. Eventuallygetting to know new people will become easier.

9. Have miniature goals

Bite sized goals are easier and quicker toachieve and the momentum can give you aboost when attacking bigger goals.

10. Raise your hand

Volunteer to take on tasks or projects thatare a stretch for you. You' ll learn you can domore than you thought you could and so willothers.

11. Be around confident people

Cultivate relationships with "can_ do" peo-ple; attitude is contagious. On the other hand，avoid "can' t do" people. It works both ways.

12. Be your own friend

When you hear that voice in your head，abusing， attacking and belittling you， remindyourself that a friend wouldn' t talk to you inthat manner.

13. Rely on your instincts

When you trust your intuition， and listento those gut feelings， you' 11 become moreconfident in the knowledge that you do knowwhat ' s right for you.

14. Keep practicing

Practice the skills you need to succeed.The more you practice， the more confident youbecome. This is true of every type of skill.

Confidence helps you to be more secure inyour abilities and more positive in your atti-tude. It also encourages you to be more asser-tive to take on more challenges， and to improveyour skills. As an added benefit， you ' ll attractlike- minded people. The end result is a betteroutlook， more success， and a higher quality oflife in all areas.

我們每個(gè)人都有自我懷疑的時(shí)候，即使最成功最能力超群最自信的人有時(shí)也會迷茫。自信是一種微妙復(fù)雜的東西。有些人天生就很自信：還有一些人很早就學(xué)會了自信，而我們其他人，也要學(xué)會建立我們自己的自信心。

在通向成功和幸福的道路上，自信發(fā)揮著重要作用。它影響著我們的思維模式、說話方式、行為方式以及生活各方面的決定——事業(yè)、金錢、人際關(guān)系，甚至我們的健康、，自信的人行動更為果敢，辦事效率更高，更有可能實(shí)現(xiàn)他們的目標(biāo)。此外，自信的人也明白如何從自己的成就中得到更多的快樂，生活也更加幸福。

幸運(yùn)的是，我們也可以建立并逐步加強(qiáng)我們的自信，直到它變得就像其他習(xí)慣一樣。建立自信心只需要一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)時(shí)間，一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)努力以及一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)專注。

1.更多的失敗

挑戰(zhàn)越多，失敗就越多，但是你要知道，你很快就能從中走出來，并成為你建立自信心的助推器.，

2.記錄你的成就

記錄下你的每一次成功，無論大小.，它會讓你用一種更積極（也更為現(xiàn)實(shí)）的眼光來看待自己的能力。

3.不要和別人比較

不要再拿自己和別人比較了。你看到的并不總是真相。無論如何，與別人比較都是對成功的一種破壞性和錯(cuò)誤性的衡量。

4.人靠衣裝馬靠鞍

我們的穿著不僅影響著我們自己的心情，還會影響別人對我們的看法。這并不是說必須得穿昂貴的衣服。重點(diǎn)是衣服要搭配好，質(zhì)地要精良，適合我們的氣質(zhì)。不要害怕某些顏色：黑色是會讓我們看起來更職業(yè)一些，但鮮艷的顏色會吸引更多的目光。

5.良好的姿態(tài)

不自信的人往往姿勢也不好。站有站相，坐有坐相，時(shí)刻保持昂首挺胸的姿態(tài)。這會讓你的自信心瞬間膨脹。

6.學(xué)習(xí)

學(xué)的越多，人就越自信。知識就是力量，知識越豐富，人就越自信。 7.健身 良好的身體狀況和外表會讓你更加自信，同時(shí)，健身所產(chǎn)生的內(nèi)啡肽會帶給你更多的能量。

8.主動和別人攀談

社交場合中，不要總是和那些讓你感覺舒服的人在一起，要主動和一些不是很熟悉的人交往。這樣，你會更容易結(jié)識新的朋友。

9.擁有小目標(biāo)

小目標(biāo)實(shí)現(xiàn)起來更容易也更快，并能給你實(shí)現(xiàn)大目標(biāo)的動力。

10.毛遂自薦

主動承擔(dān)那些能拓展你的能力的項(xiàng)目或工程。你會發(fā)現(xiàn)你比想象的更加能干，這是一條放之四海而皆準(zhǔn)的真理。

1 1.和自信的人在一起

多與自信的人交往：態(tài)度是具有感染力的。另一方面，也要盡量避開不自信的消極人士，兩種方式都會起作用。

12.做自己的朋友

當(dāng)你聽到內(nèi)心有聲音在誹謗你、攻擊你、貶低你，告訴自己真正的朋友是不會這樣對你的。

13.相信自己的直覺

相信并跟隨你的直覺，你會更加自信，知道什么最適合自己。

14.不斷實(shí)踐

在那些能幫助你實(shí)現(xiàn)成功的技能上多加練習(xí)。實(shí)踐的越多就越自信。這對于每一種技能來說都是如此。

一個(gè)人自信了，就會對自己的能力更加肯定，態(tài)度更加積極;也更有勁頭接受更多的挑戰(zhàn)，并提高自己的技能。此外，自信還會吸引志同道合的人。最終你會擁有更好的未來，更多的成功，更高質(zhì)量的生活。