陳佳

When you have a tough time making a choice， it can drive you crazy...and waste a lot of time. Heres the internal dialogue of an indecisive1 person.

Maybe I should do this.

No， maybe I should really do that.

I dont know what I should do.

OK， Ill go with my first idea.

No， thats not the best idea.

Oh， I cant stand this. Just decide already.

I cant.

Why not？

Its not so simple.

Its complex; Im complex.

Youre not complex， youre neurotic2.

No， Im not.

Yes， you are.

All right. Stop all this going back and forth and just decide already.

Youre right. So maybe Ill do this！

Is there any help for indecisive people？ Must they continue to torture3 themselves with even the most mundane4 decisions？

If you are struggling with interminable5 indecisiveness6， here are a few ideas to help you move forward.

◎In real life， as opposed to your fantasy life， there is rarely an absolute best decision. Sure， you want all your decisions to be safe and the “right” one. Yet， decisions are a risky business. By making a decision， you risk being wrong. By taking a stand， you risk being ridiculed. By making a choice， you risk regretting it. Can you take steps to minimize these risks？ Of course. Will you ever eliminate7 all risk？ Never. But， is it better to make a decision than to be bogged8 down with indecisiveness？ Yes！Yes！And Yes！

◎Trust your intuition9.

You probably equate10 more thinking with better thinking. However， too much thinking reaches a point of diminishing returns. Then what happens？ The paralysis11 of analysis. Too many options， too much reviewing of your choices stirs up anxiety. Then， you freeze！ If you are having difficulty making a decision， try trusting your intuition. Intuition is not the enemy. Unless you are on a destructive path， it is most often your wise friend.

◎Enough is enough！

If you are second-guessing every decision you make， then driving yourself crazy with buyers remorse12， tell yourself “enough is enough.” Make a decision. Its done. For better or for worse， let go. Then， use your beautiful brain to get on with your life.

當你很難做出選擇的時候，那會讓你發(fā)瘋……并浪費你很多時間。下面是一個優(yōu)柔寡斷的人的內(nèi)心的對話。

也許我該這么做。

不，也許我真的應(yīng)該那樣做。

我不知道該怎么辦。

好的，我會按我的第一個想法來。

不，這不是最好的主意。

哦，我受不了。先決定吧。

我不能決定。

為什么不能呢？

它不是那么簡單。

它很復(fù)雜，我很復(fù)雜。

你不復(fù)雜，你是神經(jīng)質(zhì)。

不，我不是。

是的，你是。

好吧，停止這一切來來回回，現(xiàn)在就決定吧。

你說得對。所以也許我要這么做！

這對優(yōu)柔寡斷的人有什么幫助嗎？他們必須繼續(xù)為最平凡的決定而折磨自己嗎？

如果你正在與無休止的猶豫不決作斗爭，這里有幾個方法可以幫助到你。

◎在現(xiàn)實生活中，與幻想生活相反，很少有絕對最佳的決定。

當然，你希望你的所有決定都是安全的，并且是正確的。然而，決策是一項風險業(yè)務(wù)。做一個決定，你就有犯錯的風險。站出來，你就有被嘲笑的危險。做一個選擇，你就有可能后悔。你能采取措施把這些風險降到最低嗎？當然。你會消除所有的風險嗎？從未。但是，做決定總比陷入優(yōu)柔寡斷的困境要好嗎？對！對！是的！

◎相信你的直覺。

你可能把更多的思考與更好的思考劃上等號。然而，過多的思考達到了收益遞減的地步。那會發(fā)生什么？分析的癱瘓。太多的選擇，對選擇太多的回顧會引起焦慮。然后，你就僵住了！如果你難以做出決定，那就試著相信你的直覺。直覺不是敵人。除非你走的是一條毀滅性的道路，否則它往往是你明智的朋友。

◎夠了就夠了！

如果你對你所做的每一個決定都想得太多，然后帶著決定后的懊悔而把自己逼瘋，那就告訴你自己“夠了就足夠了”。作出決定。完成了。不管是好是壞，放下吧。然后，用你美麗的大腦繼續(xù)你的生活。