利亞喜歡用“臉譜”（Facebook）和家人朋友交流，因為她覺得外面的世界太多紛爭了，不如待在家里用電腦和朋友聊天、分享生活趣事更好。然而，隨著社交網(wǎng)絡(luò)的普及，這個原本清靜的地方也開始出現(xiàn)各種欺凌現(xiàn)象。從小被欺負的她決定不再袖手旁觀——

At first， I spent about four to six hours a day on Facebook， mostly messaging family and old or new friends. I liked being able to talk to my friends from home， because people were always fighting outside.

But you couldnt get away from fighting， even on Facebook. People posted videos of fights or kids being bullied， or shared someones photo without their permission， spreading bad rumors.

I always hated bullying. The first time someone bullied me， I was six. Every day when we went out to recess， one little boy would make me get on the ground. He would get on top of me and ride me like I was a horse. Kids laughed at me， and I felt humiliated. I did not tell my teacher because I thought that would make it worse.

I also did not tell either my birth or foster parents for a long time， because I was scared. I did not know how they would react. Finally， one day， I told my birth father over the phone. He told me to defend myself by hitting the kid back. I did as I was told and I felt great after. I know fighting is not the answer but from that day， I did not let anyone bully me！

Bullying Online

Both my parents and my foster mother taught me that if someone lays a hand on you， you should defend yourself， and that is what I do. However， Facebook is a different world; people do not fight with fists. Instead， they argue or make fun of people or spread rumors. Girls post half-naked pictures of themselves so tons of boys can “Like”them. However， that turns into bullying too because people start calling them whores.

Other girls nudity bothers me because it encourages males to speak to all girls in a disrespectful way， and I do not appreciate that. Plus， I think some girls are uploading these types of pictures because they dont get the right attention they want and need at home. I feel sorry for them.

Facebook should be a safe place for people to just hang out and share pictures of where theyve been. I noticed there was a “report” button on Facebook to report offensive or inappropriate posts to the sites administrators. Facebook will take down any post that violates their terms which include， “You will not bully， intimidate， or harass any user. You will not post content that is hate speech， threatening， or pornographic…”

When I was 16， I started reporting. The first thing I reported was a video of a group of boys jumping a boy and making him strip. I had never seen something like this.

I showed my foster mom the video and she was disgusted too. I reported it because I felt it was the right thing to do.

After I reported the video， I got a response saying， “Thank you. Facebook will review your report.”Within an hour， the video was down. I felt good that I might have helped that boy by stopping the spread of the video.

Another thing I have reported is hate speech. I saw a picture of a dark-skinned black girl， and somebody had written a bunch of racist remarks. I did not even know the girl or who originally posted this picture， but I did not like that it was being shared throughout Facebook with racist comments. I refused to sit at my computer and let that hate be shared to the whole world.

At times， I reach out to the victims on Facebook to let them know they are not alone， and that there are people like me who defend them. I also tell them， “You are beautiful inside and out. Do not let anyone else tell you otherwise.”

A Nicer World？

As I said before， girls posting naked pictures of themselves on Facebook hurts all girls， but sometimes I feel bad for the specific girl. Once I was looking through my news feed when I came across a collage of a girl. There was a topless picture of her， and text that said she was 13 and getting bullied at school because of this picture， and that she tried to kill herself. There was also a picture of her on a hospital bed with an IV in her arm.

I thought，“What the hell is this？” Then I saw peoples comments：“Thats what she gets for acting like a whore.” “Look at our generation.” “Who took this picture？” She didnt get sympathy， just judgment. I felt bad for the girl because it looked as if she really tried to commit suicide. I reported the photo.

By reporting things that are mean， I hope to stop future bullying. I would really like to see Facebook change because if people behaved better on Facebook， they might be nicer in real life.

起初我一天會花大約四到六個小時玩“臉譜”，大多是與家人和新朋舊友互發(fā)信息。我喜歡可以在家里和朋友們聊天的感覺，因為在外面的世界，人們總是爭斗不休。

但是，即便在“臉譜”上，爭斗也一樣難以避免。人們會發(fā)布打架或者孩子被欺負的視頻，或者未經(jīng)許可就分享別人的照片，散布惡劣的謠言。

我一向很討厭欺凌這種事。我第一次被人欺負是在六歲的時候，每天課間休息時，有個小男孩總是讓我趴下，然后像騎馬一樣騎在我背上，孩子們哄堂大笑，而我備感羞辱。但是我沒有告訴老師，因為我想那只會讓情況變得更糟。

在很長一段時間里，我也沒有對我的親生父母和養(yǎng)父母提起這事，因為我很害怕，我不知道他們會有什么反應(yīng)。終于，有一天，我在電話里把這事告訴了生父。他叫我回擊那個小孩，維護自己。我照他說的做了，事后感覺很好。我知道打架不能解決問題，但從那一天起，我再也沒有讓任何人欺負我了！

網(wǎng)絡(luò)欺凌

我的親生父母和養(yǎng)母都告訴我，如果有人敢碰你，你應(yīng)該自衛(wèi)。我正是這么做的。然而，“臉譜”是一個不同的世界，人們并不是用拳頭來爭斗，而是與人口角、取笑別人或者傳播謠言。有些女孩會發(fā)布自己的半裸照片，以求贏得很多男孩給她們點“贊”。但這也變成了欺凌，因為人們開始說她們是妓女。

其他女孩的裸照令我深感困擾，因為這促使男人以一種不尊重的口吻對所有女孩說話，我不欣賞這種事。另外，我覺得有些女生上傳這類照片，是因為她們在家里沒有得到她們想要的那種正確的關(guān)注，我為她們感到難過。

“臉譜”應(yīng)該是一個供人們交流和用照片分享自己見聞的安全場所。我注意到“臉譜”上有一個“舉報”按鈕，可以向網(wǎng)站管理員舉報具有攻擊性或者內(nèi)容不當?shù)奶?，并刪除所有違反其條款的帖子。這些條款包括“不可欺凌、恐嚇或騷擾任何用戶;不可發(fā)布仇恨言論、威脅性或色情內(nèi)容”等。

我16歲的時候開始進行舉報。我舉報的第一件事是一群男孩襲擊一名男孩并讓他脫掉衣服的視頻。我從來沒有見過這樣的事。

我讓養(yǎng)母看了這個視頻，她也很反感。于是我點了舉報，因為我覺得這樣做是對的。

在舉報了這個視頻之后，我收到了一個回復：“謝謝?！樧V將核查你的舉報?！辈坏揭粋€小時，這個視頻就被刪除了。我覺得很好，因為通過阻止這個視頻的傳播，我可能幫了那個男孩。

我舉報的另一件事則和仇恨言論的帖子有關(guān)。我看到一個皮膚黝黑的黑人女孩的照片，有人在下面寫了一堆種族主義的言論。我并不認識那個女孩，也不知道是誰最初發(fā)布了這張照片，但我不喜歡整個“臉譜”都在分享這張帶有種族主義言論的照片。我拒絕坐在電腦前袖手旁觀，讓這種仇恨到處散播。

有時候，我也會聯(lián)系“臉譜”上的受害者，讓他們知道他們并非孤身作戰(zhàn)，還有一些像我這樣的人在維護他們。我也告訴他們：“你內(nèi)外都很美。不要聽任何人對你說相反的事?！?/p>

一個更好的世界？

正如我之前所說，一些女孩在臉譜上發(fā)布自己的裸照會傷害所有的女孩，但有時我會格外心疼某個女孩。有一次，我正在查看新聞推送，剛好看到一個女孩的拼貼圖，其中有一張她赤裸上身的圖片。配文說她13歲，因為這張照片的緣故在學校飽受欺負，她甚至試圖自殺。此外還有一張她在醫(yī)院病床上打吊針的照片。

我想：“這到底算什么事呀？”然后我看到有人評論說：“誰讓她像個妓女那樣，這就是她應(yīng)得的下場?！薄翱纯次覀冞@一代人吧?！薄罢掌钦l拍的？”她沒有得到同情，只得到評判。我為那個女孩感到難過，因為她似乎真的要自殺。于是我舉報了這張照片。

我希望通過舉報這些尖酸刻薄的言論可以阻止欺凌繼續(xù)發(fā)生。我由衷希望看到“臉譜”有所改善，因為如果人們在“臉譜”上表現(xiàn)得友善一些，他們在現(xiàn)實生活中可能也會更加友善。