I am torn between two men. One earns 400，000 RMB a year， but only has a high-school diploma； the other is my college classmate， who is doing an unpaid internship. With the first man， I worry about our kids future education， but with the second， I feel we would have to work hard in the next few years to have the life I want. Dear Ayi， which man should I pick？

Confused Cathy

求你了 （Qi% n@ le， I beg you）， let both these men go！ 天涯何處無芳草 （Ti`ny1 h9 ch& w% f`ngc2o， there are plenty of flowers in the world）， you dont have to 將就 （ji`ngjiu， settle）. You probably dont even have an internship， nor are you clearly a scholar yourself， but who cares！ After all， you are young and pretty， which are really only the qualities men are looking for. Make it a 等價交易（d0ngji3 ji`oy#， trade of equal value） and dont sell yourself short—literally. 相信自己 （Xi`ngx#n z#j@， have faith in yourself）， you deserve a 高富帥 （g`of&shu3i;， “tall， rich， handsome”）. Dont take forever though—you know theres a 保質(zhì)期 （b2ozh#q～， expiration date） to girls like you.

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