A lot of times， people say， “Ill wait for them to call me.” Dont—theyre saying the same thing. Be the leader in this situation.

Even if you were not the person who did the wrongdoing， you probably had some role in this. Apologize sincerely， without the word “but”. So “Im sorry I yelled at you， but you yelled at me first” doesnt count. Rather say， “Im sorry that I yelled at you. I care about you and I want us to move past this.”

別等他人說抱歉。

很多時(shí)候，人們都說，“我等他們給我打電話?！鼻f別！——因?yàn)樗麄円恢闭f著同樣的事。在這種情況里爭(zhēng)取主導(dǎo)地位。

即便主要過錯(cuò)不在你，但你也不是完全沒有責(zé)任。真誠(chéng)地道歉，不要說“但是”。所以，“抱歉剛剛對(duì)你這么大聲說話，但是你先朝我嚷嚷的”，這么說可沒用。你還不如說，“抱歉，剛才這么嚷嚷，我也是在乎你，我想我們就讓這件事情過去吧?！?/p>

You can hope for health， love， peace and success and work hard to get them.

Remember that a life well lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings， and thereby giving the person who caused you pain power over you. Learn to look for the love， beauty and kindness around you. Ask yourself： How can I be different？ How can I prevent this from happening in the future？

Give up expecting things from other people， or your life， that they do not choose to give you. Recognize the “imperfections” you have for your health or how you or other people must behave. Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you. Remind yourself that you can hope for health， love， peace and success and work hard to get them.

你可以向往健康、愛、平和及成功，并努力去得到這些。

請(qǐng)記住，好好地生活是你最好的報(bào)復(fù)。不要專注于讓你受傷的感受，而讓那些造成你痛苦的人超過你。學(xué)會(huì)尋找你周圍的愛、美和善良。問問你自己：怎么做才能有所不同？怎么做才能避免未來再發(fā)生這樣的事情？

放棄期待那些其他人或你的生活不會(huì)選擇給你的東西吧。你必須承認(rèn)你的健康中的或是你或其他人行為中的“不完美”。 把你的精力投入到尋找另一種方式來達(dá)成你的積極目標(biāo)之中去吧，而不是通過那些傷害你的經(jīng)驗(yàn)來達(dá)成。提醒自己，你可以向往健康、愛、平和及成功，并努力去得到這些。Dont wait to say Im sorry.

A lot of times， people say， “Ill wait for them to call me.” Dont—theyre saying the same thing. Be the leader in this situation.

Even if you were not the person who did the wrongdoing， you probably had some role in this. Apologize sincerely， without the word “but”. So “Im sorry I yelled at you， but you yelled at me first” doesnt count. Rather say， “Im sorry that I yelled at you. I care about you and I want us to move past this.”

別等他人說抱歉。

很多時(shí)候，人們都說，“我等他們給我打電話?！鼻f別！——因?yàn)樗麄円恢闭f著同樣的事。在這種情況里爭(zhēng)取主導(dǎo)地位。

即便主要過錯(cuò)不在你，但你也不是完全沒有責(zé)任。真誠(chéng)地道歉，不要說“但是”。所以，“抱歉剛剛對(duì)你這么大聲說話，但是你先朝我嚷嚷的”，這么說可沒用。你還不如說，“抱歉，剛才這么嚷嚷，我也是在乎你，我想我們就讓這件事情過去吧?！?/p>

You can hope for health， love， peace and success and work hard to get them.

Remember that a life well lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings， and thereby giving the person who caused you pain power over you. Learn to look for the love， beauty and kindness around you. Ask yourself： How can I be different？ How can I prevent this from happening in the future？

Give up expecting things from other people， or your life， that they do not choose to give you. Recognize the “imperfections” you have for your health or how you or other people must behave. Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you. Remind yourself that you can hope for health， love， peace and success and work hard to get them.

你可以向往健康、愛、平和及成功，并努力去得到這些。

請(qǐng)記住，好好地生活是你最好的報(bào)復(fù)。不要專注于讓你受傷的感受，而讓那些造成你痛苦的人超過你。學(xué)會(huì)尋找你周圍的愛、美和善良。問問你自己：怎么做才能有所不同？怎么做才能避免未來再發(fā)生這樣的事情？

放棄期待那些其他人或你的生活不會(huì)選擇給你的東西吧。你必須承認(rèn)你的健康中的或是你或其他人行為中的“不完美”。 把你的精力投入到尋找另一種方式來達(dá)成你的積極目標(biāo)之中去吧，而不是通過那些傷害你的經(jīng)驗(yàn)來達(dá)成。提醒自己，你可以向往健康、愛、平和及成功，并努力去得到這些。