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心靈驛站

2012-04-29 00:44:03
世界文化 2012年3期
關(guān)鍵詞:驛站心靈

An excerpt from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

While the word proactivity is now fairly common in management literature, it is a word you wont find in most dictionaries. It means more than merely taking initiative. It means that as human beings, we are responsible for our own lives. Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to our values. We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.

Look at the word responsibility— “response-ability”—the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognized that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling.

In making such a choice, we become reactive. Reactive people are often affected by their physical environment. If the weather is good, they feel good. If it isnt, it affects their attitude and their performance. Proactive people can carry their own weather with them. Whether it rains or shines makes no difference to them. They are value driven; and if their value is to produce good quality work, it isnt a function of whether the weather is conducive to it or not.

Reactive people are also affected by their social environment, by the “social weather”.When people treat them well, they feel well; when people dont, they become defensive or protective. Reactive people build their emotional lives around the behavior of others, empowering the weaknesses of other people to control them.

The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person. Reactive people are driven by feelings, by circumstances, by conditions, by their environment. Proactive people are driven by values—carefully thought about, selected and internalized values.

As Eleanor Roosevelt observed, “No one can hurt you without your consent.” In the words of Gandhi, “They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them.” It is our willing permission, our consent to what happens to us, that hurts us far more than what happens to us in the first place.

It is not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.

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